Can your senior friends help you meet someone new?
Often when we wonder how we are going to meet a new partner, we forget about our senior friends. They will have plenty of other friends and acquaintances, one of which may be perfect for us. Yes I know, you are thinking well if they had, they would have already introduced them to me. But it doesn’t always work like that.
Sometimes our friends are too embarrassed to get involved for fear that they would insult us. Not everyone likes people matchmaking and your friends may not know what your views are. They may not want to jeopardize their friendship with you by meddling in your affairs. They may think that you are single through choice rather than life events and haven’t thought about matching you up romantically.
Also they may decide that should they introduce you to a friend of theirs and you two subsequently became involved, they may be blamed if it didn’t work out. Worse they could risk losing two friends and so rather than take that risk they don’t say anything.
So it may be up to you to broach the subject with your friends. You do not need to imply that you are looking for the next Mr or Mrs. Instead you could say that you are fed up of being on your own and would love to meet a likeminded person to share some good times with. Tell them you want to go dancing or to the pictures or a show and it is so much nicer to share these experiences with someone else.
It is totally up to you whether you want to give your friends some guidelines on what you are looking for in a partner. If you don’t like smokers now would be a good time to mention this. Also if you are allergic to cats, it is highly unlikely you will find long term love with their friend who owns ten of these delightful creatures.
Keep it casual for now. You do not want to give your friends the impression that you are desperate and would date anyone. They know you as a person so maybe you should trust their judgment as to whom they think would be a compatible match.
Be prepared though for countless dinner invitations where you and your “date” for the evening may appear to be part of the entertainment. Your friends are not amusing themselves at your expense. But when we introduce two of our mutual friends with a view to a romantic encounter, we can often get carried away with the romance and forget that we are dealing with two people who are possibly embarrassed and more than a little nervous. Most senior couples have been together a long time so have forgotten what it is like to be single and on that first important date.
Go on, give your senior friends matchmaking services a try – after all what is the worst that could happen?